Hey everybody it is Motivational Monday!
When I finished college myself and my great friend/fellow Fit Team Originator Jazmane Jenkins would always discuss how we were going to be successful.
We would always talk about how we were going to maximize ourselves in our careers and in our lives.
One phrase he always repeated to me was “E, we are going to have to give up in order to go up.”
This statement is powerful and profound. And most importantly this statement is true.
There are 2 principles that explain the importance of giving up in order to go up. They are:
1) Sacrifice who you are today to become who you want to be tomorrow
This is deep. Let’s say you are completely out of shape.
You are carrying around a substantial amount of body fat.
You do not train with any consistency.
You do not eat the correct foods.
You have the mental toughness of extra soft toilet tissue.
Your sleep habits are similar to a party-hopping 20-year-old college punk.
But in your mind you have a vision of who you want to become.
You want to become lean and muscular.
You want to become stronger.
You want to develop mental toughness.
You want to unleash your inner greatness.
There is only one way for you to reach the goals you have set out for yourself. You have to absolutely destroy the current version of yourself to become what you want to become.
I had to destroy the older version of myself in order to become a successful fitness professional.
I had to sacrifice normal sleep in order to consistently write articles and film/edit videos.
I had to sacrifice spending money on things that I wanted in order to save money, build my credit, and to buy useful things for my business like new training tools.
I had to sacrifice the comfort of getting a check every 2 weeks and working for someone else in order to be my own boss and be able to have a much larger impact in my industry.
This process is very similar to a caterpillar transforming into a beautiful butterfly. The caterpillar has to sacrifice who it was for what it wants to become. It is not easy but you have to give up in order to go up.
Give up bad dietary habits.
Give up making excuses.
Give up inconsistency.
Give up feeling sorry for yourself.
You may even have to give up old friends or leave a job.
If the people you hang around with are poisonous then you cannot be around them. If your job is a toxic environment you need to consider doing something else as soon as you possibly can.
Sacrificing who you are right now in order to become who you want to be will not be easy. You will end up getting very comfortable with being uncomfortable. But if you are committed to unleashing your inner greatness and becoming a better you, then the temporary pain will not stop you.
2) Be committed to the process
The process of becoming a better you is a long process. When you sacrifice who you are for who you want to become it can be very difficult.
Old habits that you have had for 5, 10, even 20 years will not go away overnight.
Your views and opinions on different subjects will also not change overnight. It will take time to unlearn.
There have been times early on during my own process where I was stuck in a certain mindset. If I would not have stayed committed to the process and not been open to change then I would be in the same place as I was in 2010…going nowhere fast.
When I began my business that same year, I had no idea what I was doing. For the first 4 years, there was no consistent income coming through my business account. Fitman Performance Training, LLC was in name only!
I did not know anything about marketing or how to attain clients. At the time I thought if I remained the same person then I could be successful through sheer force of will.
No matter how mentally tough you are when you are failing badly, you can begin to question whether you can succeed. You can begin to question if you have the stones to stay committed to the process.
I am glad I stayed committed through the difficult times. I would not want to see what I would have become had I ran away from my passion which is helping folks unleash their inner greatness.
If you want to improve your physique, or build your business, or develop a meaningful relationship, then you must stay committed to the process.
I don’t care how hard it gets when no one is talking about your business.
I’ve been there. It stinks to have no buzz around what you are doing. But this is not the time to sulk. This is the time to develop your plan of action so that everyone will be talking about what you do in the future.
I don’t care how hard that last set of walking barbell lunges is.
I’ve been there. Hard training can be absolutely brutal and unforgiving. But if building your dream body is what you are chasing then you have to accept certain realities of developing it. Working hard for what you want is the only way to get there.
I don’t care how much your significant other pissed you off that day.
I’ve been there. Look, some relationships just are not meant to work. Everyone you date will not like you and you will not have chemistry with everyone. That is a fact. But if you are committed to the one you love then you have to accept that with those sunny days comes some rain.
If you are committed to the process then you will weather the storm.
Every day is a new day to get closer to your goals.
In order to go up and reach your maximum potential, you have to give up the things that are holding you back and keeping you down. It is much easier to dunk a basketball without a weighted vest on.
I’ll holla at you next time.
The People’s Trainer,