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When I finished college in 2006 myself and my great friend/fellow Fit Team Originator Jazmane Jenkins would always discuss how we were going to be successful.
We would always talk about how we were going to maximize ourselves in our careers and in our lives.
One phrase he always repeated to me was “E, we are going to have to give up in order to go up.” This statement is powerful and profound but most importantly this statement is true.
In order to get something you have to be willing to give something up. Some folks are shooting themselves in the foot because they are not willing to make the necessary sacrifices in order to get to the next level.
There are 2 principles that explain the importance of giving up in order to go up. They are:
1) Sacrifice Who You Are Today To Become Who You Want To Be Tomorrow
This is deep.
Let’s say you are completely out of shape.
You are carrying around a substantial amount of body fat but you are not training with any consistency and you do not eat the correct foods.
You have the mental toughness of extra soft toilet tissue and your sleep habits are similar to a party-hopping 20-year-old college punk.
But in your mind you have a vision of who you want to become.
You want to become leaner, stronger, and more muscular.
You want to develop serious mental toughness and unleash your inner greatness.
There is only one way for you to reach the goals you have set out for yourself. You have to absolutely destroy the current version of yourself to become what you want to become.
I had to destroy the older version of myself in order to become a successful fitness professional.
Then I had to sacrifice normal sleep and my training performance in order to consistently write articles and film/edit videos.
I had to sacrifice spending money on things that I wanted in order to save money, build my credit, and to buy useful things for my business like new training tools.
I had to sacrifice the comfort of getting a check every 2 weeks and working for someone else in order to be my own boss and be able to have a much larger impact in my industry.
This process is very similar to a caterpillar transforming into a beautiful butterfly.
The caterpillar has to sacrifice who it was for what it wants to become. It is not easy but you have to give up in order to go up.
First you have to give up making excuses.
Then you have to give up the bad dietary habits.
After that you have to give up being inconsistent with your workouts.
And above all, you have to give up feeling sorry for yourself.
As hard as it may be, you may even have to give up old friends and leave that soul-draining job.
If the people you hang around with are poisonous or energy vampires then you cannot be around them.
If your job is a toxic environment you need to consider doing something else immediately. Following your passion is a great place to start.
Sacrificing who you are right now in order to become who you want to be will not be easy.
You will have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable but if you are committed to unleashing your inner greatness and becoming a better you, then the temporary pain will not stop you.
2) Be Committed To The Process
The process of becoming a better you requires time and consistent effort.
When you sacrifice who you are for who you want to become it can be very difficult.
Old habits that you have had for 5, 10, or even 20 years will not go away overnight.
Your views and opinions on different subjects will also not change overnight as it will take time to unlearn.
There have been times early on during my own process where I was stuck in a certain mindset.
If I would not have stayed committed to the process and not been open to change then I would be in the same place that I was in 2010: going nowhere fast.
When I began my business that same year, I had no idea what I was doing. For the first 4 years, there was no consistent income coming through my business account. Fitman Performance Training, LLC was in name only!
I did not know anything about marketing or how to attain clients. At the time I thought if I remained the same person then I could be successful through sheer force of will.
Even the people who have true mental toughness, can begin to question whether or not they can succeed when times get tough.
You can begin to question if you have the stones to stay committed to the process.
I am glad I stayed committed through the difficult times. I would not want to see what I would have become had I ran away from my passion which is helping folks live the fit life.
If you want to improve your physique, or build your business, or develop a meaningful relationship, then you must stay committed to the process.
I don’t care how hard it gets when no one is talking about your business.
I’ve been there. It stinks to have no buzz around what you are doing but this is not the time to sulk.
This is the time to develop and execute your plan of action so that everyone will be talking about what you do in the future.
I don’t care how hard that last set of barbell walking lunges was.
I’ve been there. Hard training can be absolutely brutal but if building your dream body is what you are chasing then you have to accept certain realities of developing it. Working hard for what you want is the only way to get there.
I don’t care how much your significant other pissed you off that day.
I’ve been there and look, some relationships are just not meant to work. Everyone you date will not like you and you will not have chemistry with everyone.
These are facts. But if you are committed to the one you love then you have to accept that with those sunny days comes some rain.
If you are committed to the process then you will weather the storm.
Every day is a new day to get closer to your goals.
In order to go up and reach your maximum potential, you have to give up the things that are holding you back and keeping you down. It is much easier to dunk a basketball without a weighted vest on.
I’ll holla at you next time.
The People’s Trainer,
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