The fear of failure has killed many a dream.
The fear of failure may have prevented you from asking out the person you like.
The fear of failure may have prevented you from starting a business.
The fear of failure may have stopped you from challenging yourself in life.
Without a challenge, there is no opportunity for growth. But with a challenge, there is always a chance to fail. What route will you take?
If you give in to the fear of failing, you will surely be going nowhere fast. I can promise you this.
The fear of failure stopped me from being actively engaged in high school sports. This stings me still.
Untapped potential is absolutely criminal. I wasted a good amount of mine in those formative years.
The fear of failure stopped me from pursuing women I liked in high school and college.
Seriously, what is the worst that could have happened if I would have asked a woman out? They say no?
Great, life goes on!
The fear of failure initially made it hard for me to commit myself 100 percent to my business and making it grow.
When you are working for someone else while putting your dreams on hold, you are losing the game. Badly.
I was stuck in neutral for a period of time and it was absolutely horrendous. It felt like I was training on a treadmill. Moving, but taking zero steps forward towards any true goals.
The bottom line is that the fear of failure can be detrimental to you and your life.
What are you afraid of failing at? Is that fear stopping you from unleashing your inner greatness?
You can beat this fear by doing the 2 things that helped me vanquish my fear of failing:
1) Forget about what people will say if you fail.
You will have naysayers at every step in your journey if you are truly committed to what you want to do.
When you begin to attain success or have new ideas some people begin to act like crabs in a barrel. They will pull you right back down into that hole of negativity if you let them.
When I first wanted to become a fitness professional, I was told that I did not have the chops for it. Here I am 7 years later in the midst of a successful career and I still receive negativity from some people.
Early in my life I would let someone’s opinion of my performance influence whether I would even partake in the activity. This is a horrible way to live and I squandered many opportunities because of this.
Ignore what people will say to put you down. This goes for family and friends who can be the worst offenders. Commit to what you want to do and do it with all your heart.
Who cares if you fail?
I have failed many times. I have even failed twice at the Men’s Health Next Top Trainer competition.
Failing on the national stage where you are judged by ALL of your peers in the industry can do two things.
One, it can crush you completely as other personal trainers, who never even tried to enter the competition will say “Man, Fitman is garbage, I could have done way better!”
This is a classic case of the Monday Morning Quarterback who has never played or coached the game. This opinion is of no value.
Two, it can build you into a literal man of steel. You will become impervious to outside opinions.
You will take up residence with me in Challenge City. You will not fear challenges. You will look for them and use them as growth opportunities.
You will not fear challenges. You will look for them and use them as opportunities to grow.
If you fall down 7 times then you must get up 8 times.
You have to pick yourself up and try again. And again. And again. And as many times as it takes to achieve your goal.
2) Embrace the challenge.
Many times when it comes to failing we psych ourselves out before we even attempt the challenge.
We have an upcoming test and we focus on how hard it will be versus focusing on how we can overcome the challenge presented in front of us.
I am guilty of this.
When I ran track in college I would be focusing on everything else except how to run my race. That mindset will result in you finishing where I finished a lot of races early on…last place.
If we let the fear of failure creep in we are as good as finished. Finished like Apollo Creed when he danced with Ivan Drago.
As I got older, wiser, and less fearful I began to embrace the challenges that were in front of me.
I competed in natural bodybuilding against men who were much larger than me. I embraced it.
I competed in powerlifting against men who had much more experience than me. I embraced it.
I went independent when I truly did not have the finances to do so and began to focus on my business 100 percent without relying on a corporate gym. I embraced it.
My advice to you is to embrace the challenge.
Who cares if you fail? Success requires struggle.
Better it is to try and flat out fail versus you never try and have deep regrets your whole life about what you did not do when you were capable of doing it.
Embrace fear and accept the challenges.
I’ll holla at you next time.
The People’s Trainer,
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